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Writer's pictureAmanda Lee

How grief impacts confidence and performance in the workplace

Grief in the workplace

Grief, as an emotional response to loss, has a profound impact on an individual's ability to maintain confidence and perform at the same standard in the workplace. This is not only due to the psychological toll of grief but also the physiological and cognitive changes that accompany it. Understanding these changes within a workplace context requires an analysis of the multi-faceted ways in which grief disrupts performance, motivation, and self-perception.


For myself, there was an instant impact on my memory. At the time of experiencing two major losses close together, when I returned to work, I could not remember people’s extension numbers.
This might not sound like an important aspect, but I worked with 160 or so people and pretty much knew everyone’s number. To suddenly not know this was quite profound for me. It impacted my confidence on multiple levels.
I constantly questioned what I was remembering from meetings, what decisions were being made and what was my general recollection of events.

Psychological Impact of Grief on Confidence

Grief is often characterised by feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and emotional exhaustion, which can erode a person’s self-confidence. The grief process—whether it is from the loss of a loved one, a major life transition, or other significant losses—often leads to a reassessment of one's identity and abilities.


The emotional turmoil caused by grief can cause self-doubt, making individuals question their competence and adequacy in professional settings. Kubler-Ross’s model of grief, highlights how individuals fluctuate between emotional states. During the phases of denial and depression, for instance, individuals may feel disconnected from their usual sense of self, undermining their ability to trust their professional abilities.


This sense of disconnection can lead to a lack of motivation, impacting productivity and the confidence to take on complex tasks. Self-confidence in the workplace is closely linked to cognitive functioning, emotional stability, and social interactions. Grieving individuals might fear that their colleagues are observing their diminished capacity, leading to heightened self-consciousness. As social comparison theory posits, individuals often assess their competence by comparing themselves to others. In grief, there is a tendency to perceive yourself as falling short in comparison to colleagues who are not experiencing similar emotional disruptions, further exacerbating feelings of incompetence and insecurity.


Cognitive and physiological changes

Grief also impacts cognitive functioning, which directly affects workplace performance. Executive functions, including attention, working memory, and decision-making, may be compromised during grief, limiting an individual's ability to focus, prioritise tasks, and solve problems effectively. Research shows that:

  • Grief can trigger a state of cognitive overload, where individuals struggle to process both emotional pain and workplace demands simultaneously.

  • The prefrontal cortex, responsible for planning and decision-making, becomes overwhelmed by the emotional burden, leading to impaired judgement and the inability to perform at previously expected levels.

  • Additionally, grief is associated with physiological changes, such as chronic stress and fatigue. The hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis is activated during periods of prolonged emotional stress, causing the release of cortisol, which can impair memory and cognitive flexibility.

  • The body's stress response can also lead to physical exhaustion, leaving individuals with little energy to meet their work demands. The fatigue experienced by grieving individuals is not simply a result of emotional exertion but is compounded by physical symptoms, such as insomnia, digestive problems, and muscle fatigue.


These factors further impair their ability to maintain previous levels of productivity and performance.


Social and Emotional Consequences in the Workplace

Grief also disrupts interpersonal relationships in the workplace. The grieving process can lead to withdrawal from social interactions, which are crucial for collaboration and teamwork. A grieving employee might feel isolated, either because they are withdrawing emotionally or because colleagues are unsure of how to offer support.


Social support theory indicates that emotional and instrumental support from colleagues can act as a buffer against the negative effects of stress, but the social stigmas surrounding grief often prevent these support systems from functioning effectively. This lack of support can compound feelings of inadequacy and contribute to declining workplace performance.


Overworking as a Coping Mechanism

Interestingly, some grieving individuals may respond to their emotional distress by overworking in an attempt to regain a sense of control or to distract themselves from their pain. This can lead to temporary improvements in productivity, but it often results in burnout and further emotional depletion over time. The psychological mechanism behind overworking is often tied to a desire to repress grief and avoid the overwhelming emotions associated with loss. However, overworking as a coping strategy is unsustainable and can ultimately lead to a crisis of confidence when individuals become physically and emotionally exhausted.


The Impact of Grief on Performance Metrics

In terms of performance metrics, grief can affect key indicators such as timeliness, accuracy, and creativity. The cognitive decline associated with grief, coupled with emotional and physical fatigue, can lead to errors in work, missed deadlines, and an overall decrease in innovation and critical thinking. The resulting negative feedback loop—where an individual’s declining performance reinforces their lack of confidence—can be damaging to their long-term career trajectory if not properly addressed by empathetic leadership and support systems.


Leadership’s Role in Supporting Grieving Employees

Leaders play a crucial role in recognising the profound impact grief can have on employees' confidence and ability to perform. Providing flexible work arrangements, mental health resources, and a supportive work culture can help grieving employees feel secure and valued during this difficult time. Compassionate leadership not only helps grieving employees regain their footing but also maintains workplace morale and productivity.


Major losses and grief may profoundly impact an individual's confidence and workplace performance due to emotional, cognitive, and physiological disruptions. Leaders must adopt empathetic and flexible approaches to support employees through this process, recognising that grief is a unique and deeply personal experience that requires time and understanding. By acknowledging these challenges and offering support, companies can create environments where employees feel valued and empowered to regain their confidence and productivity.



Grief in the workplace, at home contemplating loss, sitting on the couch, looking out the window

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